Slut.

The other day I encountered a girl who decided that as an insult she would call me a bitch and a slut, this girl has met me once. I find this so incredibly amusing not just because she couldn't think of anything better to say but just because I don't believe in sluts. A "slut" is actually an antiquated term for a chambermaid and somewhere along the line and a few puritan ideals later its a term for a sexually promiscuous girl. Promiscuity isn't something that's gender bias but for some reason society has decided as a whole that one of the worst insults you can throw out at a woman is to call her a slut. Now if I had been 14 again this may have hurt me or hit a soft spot but now that I'm older it amuses me. And I repeat, I don't believe in sluts. I attribute this to the fact that the majority of people use the term to describe someone's style of dress, like somehow you can know what someone is like by their appearance. Plus I've never been one to attribute someone's worth based on how they dress, just because it seems so incredibly superficial. I think that someone can respect themselves and a be a worthwhile intelligent person even if they decided to show off their body.

More to the point I don't believe in sluts because I don't see anything wrong with someone choosing to express their sexuality. I don't see the insulting part of telling someone that they have sex often and that they enjoy it. I really don't see why if men are entitled to the "privilege" of being able to enjoy sex why a woman can't indulge in it either. I think the problem is that men don't judge other men for their sex lives but women seem to enjoy perpetuating the "slut shaming" mentality as a way to derive their own self esteem. Like somehow it makes them worth more.

If you have to derive your self esteem from making others feel like less then you have a bigger problem on hand than just being overly concerned with the lives of others.