Attitude means everything

The term feminist receives very negative attention not due to definition but rather connotation. Most people picture a "feminazi" a term that Rush Limbaugh so graciously decided to promote being the ultra conservative swine that he is. That gives people the illusion that a feminist  must be pro women and against men. That isn't necessarily the case. I for one think that men are crucial to the feminist cause and to creating equality among the genders, rather than take on a victim mentality and create a scapegoat which is conveniently there to blame for all shortcomings. Men can be feminist, the term does not only refer to women and I think that more men need to know that. Gender roles are something that are instilled in women and men at an incredibly young age, these are all social constructs. Several groups of people want to blame the media for this, but the fact of the matter is that the media creates images that people want. They sell what people want to buy. Women more often than not perpetuate the very ideas that so many want to break free from, they buy the ticket and they take the ride.

I don't blame men but I do feel tempted to point a finger at some (not all) women.

Women and men are inherently different, from physical differences to some mental differences. Differences do not make anyone better or worse(something racists should think about). Upon accepting these differences and than realizing that they do not make you better or worse you can begin to eliminate the privileged mentality. I'm aware this sounds idealistic but at no point am I denying that men and women do see a difference in wage equality. It is also harder for women to enter the field of politics and legislation makers. Which is why I suggest we build bridges rather than start wars.

Slut.

The other day I encountered a girl who decided that as an insult she would call me a bitch and a slut, this girl has met me once. I find this so incredibly amusing not just because she couldn't think of anything better to say but just because I don't believe in sluts. A "slut" is actually an antiquated term for a chambermaid and somewhere along the line and a few puritan ideals later its a term for a sexually promiscuous girl. Promiscuity isn't something that's gender bias but for some reason society has decided as a whole that one of the worst insults you can throw out at a woman is to call her a slut. Now if I had been 14 again this may have hurt me or hit a soft spot but now that I'm older it amuses me. And I repeat, I don't believe in sluts. I attribute this to the fact that the majority of people use the term to describe someone's style of dress, like somehow you can know what someone is like by their appearance. Plus I've never been one to attribute someone's worth based on how they dress, just because it seems so incredibly superficial. I think that someone can respect themselves and a be a worthwhile intelligent person even if they decided to show off their body.

More to the point I don't believe in sluts because I don't see anything wrong with someone choosing to express their sexuality. I don't see the insulting part of telling someone that they have sex often and that they enjoy it. I really don't see why if men are entitled to the "privilege" of being able to enjoy sex why a woman can't indulge in it either. I think the problem is that men don't judge other men for their sex lives but women seem to enjoy perpetuating the "slut shaming" mentality as a way to derive their own self esteem. Like somehow it makes them worth more.

If you have to derive your self esteem from making others feel like less then you have a bigger problem on hand than just being overly concerned with the lives of others.

Introduction

Hello there, I'd like to welcome you to my virtual soapbox. The reason for this blog is simple, I got fed up with the attitudes and labels that are forced onto women on a daily basis. On a small scale I hope that someone will read my thoughts and have a tiny pang of empathy or at least consider a different point of view.